It’s here! …… The BIG day…that so many SINGLES hate!
The day when seemingly the entire world is “yelling in your face” to remind that:……… YOU ARE SINGLE! ………What day is it? VALENTINE’S DAY! (LOL)
So many women dread this day. LOVE is literally on display, EVERYWHERE!
And then there’s YOU in all of your singleness, stuck in front of a “screen”, watching back to back episodes of women receiving gifts, surprises , engagement rings, public affection and love –AND YOU CANT CHANGE THE CHANNEL FOR 24 full hours!
Personally, this is my first SINGLE Valentine’s Day in 4 years………. I didn’t think I would ever have another single (unattached) V-Day but last year, I ended my overall great long-term relationship with a really good person because we both knew that we had given it our all but it was not “the thing” that God intended for our futures. We mutually agreed to let it go and we now enjoy a healthy friendship!
So! Here I am back to single. ( Honestly, I am not sure how this item was placed on the ballot and voted in for me to “start over” without my vote. Lol. God is hilarious sometimes.) BUT! Here we are and guess what? It’s really ok. I’m content where I am and SO EXCITED for what comes next in life and love! I am completely healed, whole, ……. and HAPPY! Yes! Even ON VALENTINE’S DAY! lol You should be too!
Is it just another day? ……..
For some, it’s no big deal, you just don’t care to see it all day.
(Probably Still In Some Form Of A Healing Process.)
For many, you’re good because you LOVE seeing LOVE, even in your own waiting season.
(Probably HEALED And At Total Peace, Ready For Love.)
For some, you hate every second of it and it shows and you are likely miserable today.
(Probably Still Broken In Some Way.)
For others, it brings a sadness that is a reminder of something or someone that you loved and lost, a divorce, a recent break-up or separation.
(Probably In Need Of Counsel And Healing )
DO NOT LET ALL THE GLAMOUR OF SOCIAL MEDIA “LOVE” DECEIVE OR DEPRESS YOU TODAY or any other day. Some of the most “happy” couples you see and make your “relationships goals” are more miserable in those relationships (behind closed doors) than you will ever be in your singleness.
IS IT WORTH IT? To receive cute and or expensive gifts and public attention for the world to see on “V-Day” ……. but wake up and still feel SINGLE, unloved, unappreciated and unwanted THE NEXT DAY and the rest of the year ??
NOTE: I LOVE LOVE. I love to see others in love, romantic comedies and loves stories are my favorite movie genres, I love feeling and being loved and in love. My life stance is: If you are truly happy and well loved, by all means flaunt and CELEBRATE it, Big! But…..
As women, we must grow beyond needing to PROVE our happiness to others and just learn to LIVE IN IT. You can proudly SHOW IT- BUT YOU DO NOT HAVE TO PROVE LOVE. When you are loved properly, it speaks for itself, daily, not just on one special day.
What every single woman should know is:
IT IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD to be single (ON ANY DAY). Of course, most of us want companionship, love and commitment BUT you CAN be single and absolutely happy UNTIL love finds you…….. How?
It starts with healing, recovering, re-DISCOVERING and loving YOURSELF.
If you find yourself single this Valentine’s Day, hold your head up proudly, take yourself on a date, have a sister-friends day with other single friends, catch a movie, buy yourself some chocolates, get yourself a massage, laugh, have fun AND EMBRACE your singleness. (If you learn to do this right, you wont have to do it forever!)
It is not a man, his love or a relationship that gives you your ultimate value and validation. You must know how much you bring to any table that you sit at BEFORE you take your seat.
LOVE and Celebrate YOU! No matter who left you, how many relationships or marriages have failed. You are STILL valuable and worthy.
It is not until you learn to be happy and content alone (through every season) that you are ready to be happy, content and loved by someone else. HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!
“”Life doesnt have to be perfect to be wonderful.”- The Healed Happy Whole Woman