One of the most awesome gifts in life is a TRUE FRIEND. If you happen to find more than one in this life time, consider yourself extremely blessed.
A TRUE friend easily becomes more like a sister or family. A sister-friend is someone you bond with. It’s someone who understands you because they WANT to know you not just to “figure you out” or get something from you.
It’s someone who gets your quirkiness, your humor, your style, your flaws, your taste and everything that makes you, YOU. A sister-friend is someone who does not bash or shame you for your mistakes, nor for the thoughts and views you have that may differ from their own.
It’s someone who promotes and pushes your dreams and endeavors as if it were their own. Even and especially when no one else does. It’s someone who BELIEVES in who you are before the rest of the world ever sees who you are.
WHAT BLOCKS TRUE SISTERHOOD?
One of the reasons so many women miss out on good long lasting friendships is because they expect and sometimes even demand that all of their friends be the same or “just like them”, instead of appreciating the differences.
When you meet someone, you must be willing to accept them for who they are and what they will bring to the friendship IF you are going to be friends.
For example, If you are naturally a “giver” and you love giving gifts and surprises, that is an awesome trait to have, but it is YOUR trait. Your friends may not be “givers”. It is unfair to become upset with a friend for never giving you gifts if they are not “gift givers” by nature. As long as they show genuine gratitude for the things you do, look for other ways that they may be showing you their love and appreciation. Maybe you have friends who are a great listeners and to them being a listening ear when needed is the equivalent of buying giving a gift. (Love Languages apply to all forms of relationship not just romantic.)
If you have friends who don’t like partying and hanging out with crowds, don’t harass them over it but find ways to enjoy their company in smaller settings and visits.
If you know that you are a sensitive person who needs a lot of time and attention, find friends who give that so that you are fulfilled without making your less “needy” friends feel guilty.
UNDERSTANDING is what creates a sisterhood. The women with whom we have this sisterhood easily become our great “Sister-friends”.
The friends who have remained and are consistent in my life understand and appreciate me for who I am and vice-versa. There have been some over the years who did not understand it or who needed more than I could offer, so they left and that is ok. We are not obligated to stay in friendships where we are made to feel guilty for not being who someone else wants (not needs) us to be. It is ok to let some “friends” go and for some of them to let you go without discord or slander. This is an act of maturity. Some connections are only for as season.
They love and support each other in good and bad times. They celebrate each other without secret envy or jealousy. They hurt when a sister is hurting. They cheer when a sister is winning! They love, genuinely, beyond differences, disagreements and debates. They always make things right, if not immediately, then eventually. They can handle having multiple circles of sisters and they embrace what makes each of their friends special and different.
Sister- friends are the women that you can trust in your presence and in your absence. They are the friends who do not change in challenging times. They are the ones who stand up for your name, your character and your reputation. Sister-friends are the friends who you never have to question the heart, motives or intentions of.
They fix their sister’s crowns without letting the rest of the world know that it had slipped. They live, laugh, love and pray you through!
If you have friends who have become your sisters, cherish them, love them, value them, appreciate them and make sure that you return the love. ~ Be healed. Be happy. Be whole. @tishleyjaneene
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